Saturday, August 15, 2015

The Sexualized Life

What Can I Do?
Talk to your children.
Protect your home.
Get involved with a loving, healing spiritual community.

For help –
Call the FBCR counseling center – 972-235-5296

Reading Resources:

Undefiled: Redemption From Sexual Sin, Restoration For Broken Relationships by Harry Schaumburg, Moody Publishers

One of the better resources out there on the topic of sexual sin and how it damages relationships.  Dr. Schaumburg has a ministry that deals specifically with those enslaved with sexual sin, Stone Gate Ministries.

Thoughts for Young Men by J. C. Ryle

A classic from the great J.C. Ryle, this small book is one to be used in counseling, small group study, or for personal refreshment and encouragement.

Sex Is Not the Problem (Lust Is) by Joshua Harris, Multnomah Books

Harris’ original book entitled Not Even a Hint has been re-released under this new title.  Perhaps one of the more well-known books written from a solid, biblical perspective, Harris wastes no time in identifying the root of the problem with pornography and other sexual sins.

Closing the Window by Tim Chester, IVP Books

Tim Chester’s recent offering on the topic if living porn free is a much-needed resource that balances the principles of God’s grace and the gospel with other resources that stress somewhat external precautions as it comes to pornography. Chester does an excellent work at connecting one’s motivation to be porn-free with the greater themes of God’s glory and beauty.

The War Within by Robert Daniels, Crossway Books

Daniels’ book offers a solid look at the interior of the heart where the struggle with all sexual sin lies. At the end of the book Daniels gives a helpful summary of his major principles as well as practical chapters on internet pornography and masturbation.

Sex and the Supremacy of Christ by John Piper and Justin Taylor

This compilation of chapters written from some well-known figures in the church is a treasure trove of wisdom and counsel in many different areas. David Powlison’s chapter and contribution on “Restoring Joy to the Sexually Broken” is one every counselor should read and think through.

CCEF Mini-Books by Various

CCEF has several minibooks that are commendable. The range from the topics of Sexual Addition: Freedom from Compulsive Behavior (David Powlison) to It’s All About Me: The Problem with Masturbation (Winston T. Smith). These small booklets are an invaluable resource for any counselor. Other helpful titles include What’s Wrong with a Little Porn When You’re Married (Nicholas Black) and What’s Wrong with a Little Porn When You’re Single(Nicholas Black).

Living in a Fallen World Counseling Booklet Series by Paul Tautges, Day One Publications

This series of booklets, similar to CCEF’s mini-books, is another helpful tool in the counselor’s toolbox of go-to helps on a variety of topics. Titles include, Help! He’s Struggling with Pornography (Brian Croft); Help! She’s Struggling with Pornography (Rachel Coyle); Help! My Spouse Has Been Unfaithful (Mike Summers).

Porn-Free Church (free e-book) by Covenant Eyes

Covenant Eyes has been a helpful partner in the process of aiding those who are enslaved to pornography to put up helpful parameters to guard one’s heart. This complimentary e-book has many helpful chapters in dealing with pornography, counseling those enslaved to pornography and the role of the local church. Authors and contributors include Luke Gilkerson, Alasdair Groves, and Tim Chester.

Sexual Detox by Tim Challies

This excellent book which originally grew out of a series of blog posts from Christian author and blogger, Tim Challies, is well-written, biblically-based, and gospel-centered. It is also available as an e-book.

The Social Costs of Pornography by The Witherspoon Institute

This short book (51 pages) is the result of a study done from The Witherspoon Institute at Princeton University. Although not written from a Christian and biblical perspective, their observations and recommendations are both startling and insightful as they recommend a course of action.

The Devalued Life

God created all living things as a sacred work, and he considered it all “good.” Human life, therefore, comes from God and is of ultimate value to him. He not only created human life, he also redeemed human life from the power of sin (John 3:16), continues to recreate human life in procreation (Isaiah 44:2), and daily sustains it (Matthew 6:11).

Last Sunday we learned that God’s love for human life impacts how we view life, and how we treat other human beings. We value life only as much at the life we value the least (tweet this). This has an impact on what we do with guns, military might, the environment, our bodies, entertainment, hunger, poverty, and unwanted pregnancy, just to name a few.

Abortion is an example of how our culture has come to devalue life. The good news is that abortion rates have decreased over the last 20 years, from 1.6 million in 1990 to less than a million last year.  This has been due, in part, to sex education in the public schools and a proliferation of Crisis Pregnancy Centers that provide support and help as they provide alternatives to abortion.  These strides should be celebrated. The bad news, however, is that there are still close to a million abortions per year, most of which are abortions of convenience, as birth control.

What are ways we can help?
1.     Join the Conversation, but do so, with kindness and respect.
2.     Stand, unashamedly, for core Biblical values.
3.     Speak (with kindness) for those who have no voice.
4.     Love people, especially those who are hurting.
5.     Be a part of the solution
(i.e., volunteer at a Crisis Pregnancy Center, reach out to someone who is struggling with an unwanted pregnancy, advocate for unconditional, non-judgmental love in your church community).

If you have been through this issue first hand and want someone to talk to, I would encourage you to take advantage of several opportunities:
1. Contact our Counseling Center – Call 972-235-5296, and set up an appointment to talk to a professional counselor.

 2. Contact Lisa Lloyd at Lisa had an abortion at the age of 18 and gave her testimony on Sunday. She is willing to minister to those who have been through it. You can hear her testimony on our podcast at Her testimony begins 26 minutes into the podcast.